well

Well, i guess there are always things worth smiling for, and that's God's promise.
But we just have to see it.

I think i have to be very very very thankful for the family I married into.

Knowing myself well, and some minor not-v-nice incidents with the ex's parents, i have always doubted my ability to be a daughter-in-law worth falling heads over heels for. For one, i am quite anti-social, and with my built-up independence away from being a mammy's baby, it could become a challenge for me to build close parent-child relationships to a second family after marraige. Or maybe I am just not the type to hold a mother-in-law's hand because my mother didnt held mine.

Credit have to be given to Dan's parents because they tried to see what is beyond the surface. of perhaps a girl who sometimes miss church service cos she is too tired, though her husband's parents are pretty well-known church members. of a girl who did not help out with the chores very much back when she stayed over. Of a girl who probably does not have sweet words at the tip of her tongue to say most of the time. Of a girl who cannot really cook. And a girl who was so protective of her dogs that she was prepared to fend off any pressure to give them up, ever. and a girl who is so not prepared to give them grandchildren, yet. oh my, on my part I am kinda the equation to in-laws clashing catastrophe.

But back in those days, my mum-in-law was the one who cooked porridge when I was sick. She was the one who initiated to hold my hand once when we were hanging out at a cousin's wedding. She was the one who always asked me if she can feed treats to my dogs n if its good for them.

My dad-in law was the one who was always there to listen to my stories and work problems, and always putting things in the correct perspective, to counter my rash and impulsive assumptions. And he was never stingy with sharing the things he know and the things he have, telling us to take anything from their home, ranging from toiletries to the racks he knew would help in our business. And he was the one fending off nosey relatives' unneccesary "must have kids" talk for us, then teaching us how to handle it.

And just cos last week, when we were awing over his new streaming tv device, I was commenting on how I wanted a certain old HK show which cannot be found in shops. looking back i could have said "wa that show really nice" so much I didnt realise it. And he went to find it and bought it and passed it to me today.

And back at home Dan very happily told me "see my parents really dote on u"

Indeed.
I cant say i have done much to deserve this, so of course i should do more. I know how lucky I am.